Quick question! Any feedback is appreciated!♥️♥️

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Quick question here.

WHY WON’T I SHARE MY BLOG TO MY PERSONAL FRIENDS AND FAMILY EVEN THOUGH I WANT TO?????😫😩😩
So I’ve always enjoyed writing poetry and short stories but I’ve never been quick to share. In fact, I was a Fine Art’s Major for three years and I never shared any of my work. AND IT ISN’T TERRIBLE! Lol

I’m the same with my writing and my blog. It’s almost like, it’s my private little world. I have this wonderful community of bloggers who enjoy deep thinking and enjoy delving into poetry, creative writing, and life’s questions and I’m so grateful for it. When they (you all) share my work, I’m so excited and appreciative, it literally brings tears to my eyes! ..yet I myself don’t want to let people (friends and close acquaintances) in on it! Why??

No one is even waiting for it so why do I feel pressure??

Maybe the word is anxious.

I think I feel anxious to share because although I’d love for people to know this side of me…I don’t know that I’m ready to share it with them.
Sooooo “Honestly, what’s the big deal??” I ask myself. “It’s a small portion of your heart.. your writing and poems.
I enjoy sharing it with people who appreciate it I guess. Ahhhhh, see, I’m arguing with myself right now. And for real, when I say “sharing” I mean posting my damn link on my Instagram and THAT IS IT!!! SO Why am I so hesitant to do that tiny thing I want to do sooooo badly?? It’s a never ending shower argument, “Share because this reason! NO! Don’t share it because this reason!”
What Am I waiting for….

My question is: Have any of you guys experienced this fear as a blogger?

How did you put it behind you?

Do I just share my work and finally exhale?? Or keep working in private, my little safe haven?

Any feedback is appreciated! Again, thanks for reading! Have a wonderful weekend friends!!

46 Replies to “Quick question! Any feedback is appreciated!♥️♥️”

  1. I found my way here because I used to share my writing with a very good friend. An Anam Cara, you might say. She kept encouraging me to write more and to share it (though I think she’s a better writer and she doesn’t share, goddammit!) I finally got the courage to put my stuff on here. It’s still rather shy making and I often get disheartened by the lack of readership but then I always remember that’s ultimately for me and for her to have a place to find it.

    Having said all of that–it’s really vulnerable to share these parts of you with others. VULNERABLE. So…

    Sending you lots of warmth.

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    1. Thank you so much for your feedback Jose. I’m so thankful that she encouraged you to write and share because I enjoy all your posts!! Vulnerability is exactly what I’m struggling with! I keep telling myself the same thing, “this is my space! Share it or not, it’s here for me!” I don’t know why it’s so hard! Thank you so much for listening and responding Jose! ♥️♥️

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  2. I don’t share mine with friends. Only my wife and a close daughter. I find it’s easier to really say what you want without people in your neighborhood reading. But then again, my blog is pretty controversial in my highly evangelical area.

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    1. That’s kind of the problem I face. Although I live California many friends and tons of family are Bible belt conservatives.(I don’t mean for that to sound bad but, it is what it is.) I want to share BUT at the same time I don’t ever want to feel censored on my blog ya know. It’s one of the main reasons I left Facebook. I need my space! Thank you for your input. I’m torn but honestly I get everything I need out of this community so I might just keep it my safe space for awhile! Have a good weekend! And again thank you for your feedback!

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      1. I know and thank you Pattaya! Honestly I hate that I care so much about opinions.. I’m working on growing mentally tougher. I like your bluntness! I need it. Thank you for chatting with me. It all comes down to not caring about others opinions. Pretty simple.♥️ I think I’m making progress, hopefully. Haha!

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  3. I’ve faced this problem as well. The reason it bothers us to share with people we know is because we don’t want to be judged by them. However, don’t stop yourself and stop worrying what they think. Be yourself

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    1. That is definitely one of the reasons I’m so hesitant to share! 😩😩😩 I definitely have a different way of thinking compared to many I grew up around and I feel like it distances me from opening up and sharing. Thank you for sharing your thoughts with me. I truly appreciate your words.♥️

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      1. I feel the same distance with some of my closest people. Worse part is you want your closest to offer the much needed encouragement, which they often fail to provide with blogging and that’s where this blogging community steps in😊

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      2. 100% correct! In fact, many people close to me cause me to feel more isolated than relatable. It can be toxic if I don’t separate myself to a certain point. It’s weird, to feel alone but to know so many people.(“so many” as in “a few”..haha) Strange.lol This blogging community has been such a wonderful support system and a confidence booster when it comes to my writing!

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  4. Sounds like you came here for much of the same reason I did. You are vibrating on a whole new level then others close to you. You are having trouble relating to others who are not vibrating on your level. You are no longer vibrating at the same frequency. Your poetry, stories, writings and work are really only understood and appreciated by people vibrating on your frequency. Subconsciously you know this and maybe consciously you know this too. As you vibrate higher it causes rifts in your relationships. It does not mean they are bad people. It just means you are vibrating higher. You are the sum sum of the people you like to hang around with.
    As you vibrate higher and higher the ones you are leaving behind will try to pull you back. Most people think “No way, not my friends and family. They wouldn’t do that”. I thought the same thing. I tried to talk to people I thought were very close to me and they dropped me like I was a bad disease. They only person I can talk to that is close to me is my daughter. That is because I have taught her to be her own person. Her mind is her own.
    At first I thought it was jealousy, but it is much deeper than that. You subconsciously know you are no longer on the same level, wave length and vibration. It is why you got rid of Facebook. 😉
    You came here to share your work with others vibrating on your level. That is how real Magic works. Magic is in the subconscious. She is leading you and you are listening to her. That is Intuition. The higher and higher you climb the fewer and fewer there will be that vibrate on you level. On here, putting your work out will attract people you are in harmony with or others who resonate with your work. It also magnifies your attraction to people you want to be in harmony with and their work. I hope this helps.

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    1. Ok first off, are you in my head!!?? I think you have exactly summed up what is going on. I haven’t been able to break it down like you just did and I think you just helped me find closure to many unanswered questions. I’m able to connect with people on here that vibe on my frequency. I totally get it. I’ve been longing for these types of connections. My intuition told me to leave places that I’ve outgrown (mentally) and it’s been very beneficial to separate because I’m finally “opinion free” of those who are extremely toxic to me. “The higher you climb, the fewer and fewer there will be that vibrate on your level” — these words.♥️♥️ Bloggers like you make me selfish. I don’t want to share you yet, you’re my diamonds under the surface. Thank you so so much for taking the time to understand and help break down my mental struggle. Im so grateful for minds like yours.

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      1. You are welcome. I will be glad to help in any way I can. You have to remember that I am going through the same thing. The higher we both go the fewer and fewer people will understand either one of us. There are very few people who understand me. You happen to be one of the few. 😉 I am happy to help anyone who is searching. I was called hyper awake by the man who taught me mystery school. Usually things that come to me scare 99% of the people off. Sacred Feminine is not for everyone. I am very grateful to others to share with. So thank you. 😊

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  5. Although my blog is new, I’ve blogged previously for 8 years.
    My friends know I blog, but none of them are into it, especially if they don’t ‘do’ nature. I don’t push it either, because just like you and others have said in comments, they are afraid of (insert fear here).
    I like being Frank and even Betty sometimes 😏, and I *may* even embellish a story regarding a flesh friend. I’m actually happy my flesh friends don’t read it.
    I do love my virtual group, tho ❤️
    Most are interested in what I write, challenge me and sometimes I feel I’m closer to them as I converse with them daily and see my fleshies 2X a month…

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    1. 100% agree with everything you’ve said here. I can tell you without a doubt I communicate more here than I do anywhere else(outside of my home). I thoroughly enjoy having this separate space for my creativity to flow. Thank you for your feedback. I appreciate you reading.♥️♥️

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  6. You don’t want to make yourself more vulnerable around the people you know in real life? I have blogged for over ten years, had a few articles published, and self-published a little book, but very few people outside of the internet world know that I write at all. It just doesn’t fit my bearded, weight-lifting, scowling image I’ve worked so hard to create.

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    1. 😂🤣😂 love this!🤣😂 I can relate on every level, except the beard! Haha but you’re right, I’m so scared to be vulnerable around certain people. I need a place behind the curtain where I can vomit my opinions and struggles. Away from those I’ve known for so long.. Thank you for reading and giving me feedback. So thankful I can connect with voices like yours.♥️♥️ Have a great weekend!!

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  7. Holy moly—- no. I cannot share. I’m already a stranger in my hometown. I don’t want to be shunned for the sake of my kids. My very nature is opposite this Bible Belt living I’m experiencing. My words are a bit darker than yours, though. So for you, it might not be a deal breaker!

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    1. Stacy, sister you already know but lemme just say, I’m only skimming the surface of my brain with these blogs of mine, what’s deep inside my mind when it comes to “Bible Belt Conservatives” well it’s not welcoming to say the least, in fact when it comes to Trump supporters I’m down right
      God-damned mean. Ain’t have that kind of nasty in my life.🥺 My deep dark brain is aching to break free, and she’s not going to be nice. So I might hold off on sharing anyway.😂🤣😂

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      1. Yes, I’m so grateful for your solidarity in our values. I’m so grateful that you were my sounding wall as I deconstructed from religion. I appreciate you being ahead in breaking free. I love that you have moved into positive output. I seem to be stuck in the murky waters, using anger as my paddle. Keep being true to you and letting your beautiful mind create.

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  8. Yea I had the same line of thoughts. So for five whole I just used a variety of anonymous names and blogs and never shared any of my work with anyone I personally knew. I just allowed it to float in the void of the great internet.

    One of the reasons I was hesitant to share with friends and family is that they might fail to understand and misinterpret my thoughts and poems and a whole lot of other irrational fears.It’s only since last month I started posting stuff on my Instagram and I guess I’m lucky in the way that though many people saw the link etc, nobody was bothered enough to check my blog, so I escaped a lot of the judgement I initially feared. But on the other hand, the one or two people who genuinely checked my blog, could relate to it, started opening up to me and now I’m building a bond with them.

    So I’d say if you’re really anxious about it, don’t push yourself yet. But as an experiment you could put up a link or something for a few hours and see how they respond because you truly do have a wonderful blog. xx

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    1. Thank you so much for your feedback! That’s definitely how I feel! I’m so anxious, I keep telling myself to wait on sharing! But Why wait ya know?! I feel like that is one reason I’m so anxious! I think I might do exactly what you said. Post a link for just a bit so I can test the water! Haha I really enjoy your blog as well. Thank you for your kind words and for chatting with me about my struggle. Hooe you have a wonderful week!😃

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    1. Exactly and that’s why I’m grateful for my space here. I find connections here, like minds. People who appreciate and enjoy reading, creative minds and diving into truth. Like you said, their feedback is coming from a more honest place. Thank you for stopping by, I appreciate you sharing your thoughts with me.♥️♥️

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  9. Thanks for sharing… just follow your heart, if you do not wish to share, do not… 🙂

    “Be who you are and say what you feel, because those who mind don’t matter, and those who matter don’t mind.”
    ― Bernard M. Baruch

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    1. Thank you so much reading! Honestly, I’m glad I went ahead and held off on sharing. This is definitely a ME space. I need that behind the scenes place to go without the static of people I know in my own community. Have a wonderful day/night!

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  10. This is exactly my story. I can so relate to everything you are saying. I too find it difficult to share my articles and poems with my friends and families and find it easier to share it with rest of the world. May be I am scared of criticism, or judgement. But I started sharing things with some of them, little by little, though it was uncomfortable for me. And thankfully I have always received positive reviews about my blog. Though I am yet to go all out and open about it though. I think it is alright to be scared, may be we care more about what friends and family will think of us than rest of the world, may be there is a part of ourselves that even our closest friends and family don’t know, something that is revealed in our writing, and it feels kind of vulnerable to share it with them. I think share it with the people who support you and like reading or knowing more about you.

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    1. Thank you so much for sharing your situation. Like you said, we are definitely in similar situations! I have actually just started sharing some of my work and I’ve received positive feedback as well! It took me awhile to feel comfortable enough to share but I finally just said, “It’s who I am, so people should know.” I’m glad I did. I’m also glad it was a positive experience for you as well. It does take a lot to share your vulnerability but it’s part of who we are, I’m not hiding anymore.♥️♥️ Thank you for reading and sharing with me.

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