I deleted Facebook and it’s…. relieving. If I could put it in Marie Kondo terms, “That shit sparked some damn joy!!” And I know, I’m late to the game but guys, it’s really nice having that soapbox news feed behind me.
What is it with Facebook?? I’ve been growing tired of the whole FB mentality for awhile now. Like many others I’d use the excuse, “I use it to keep in touch with family” and “I have it to see friends and their children.” But I don’t feel that way anymore because without even meaning to, Facebook revealed things to me that I didn’t want to see about people I loved, especially during this political era.
For the longest time I struggled with deleting Facebook because it IS a platform for my voice in a way and I felt it was important to shine a light on current topics such as: hate crimes/blatant racism, unlawful police shootings involving predominantly black males, school shootings, presidential scandals (proven to be true) etc. Things that are OBVIOUSLY big issues, problems rather. However, the backlash I received just became too much..maybe i’m weaker than what I thought…I’d tell myself it’s time to delete… but how can I justify the personal decision of cutting out this “platform” and silencing my voice for the people that need it, that don’t have a voice. Does the state of my mental health warrant this exit?
THE ANSWER IS YES IT DOES!
Because FACEBOOK IS NOT MY VOICE. A “platform” maybe in a small way???
So I decided I will no longer present my life and my voice on a bickering Facebook news feed. My voice will be heard in bigger places with like minds, problem-solving for the benefit of the people. My voice will be heard where changes are made. My voice will show through my actions, and how I raise my children. I will not give the uninformed my eyes and ears to push their limited perspective on. Nope! Not in my direction. I’ve done MY research and I shouldn’t have to educate an adult about why acceptance, understanding, and LOVE, actually are the end all answers.
I’ve been without Facebook for a few months now and I have a weird sense of calmness. Like aaaaaaa relief. Strange right? So funny that it was such a worry to me, funny that I ever cared that much! And honestly, maybe I don’t care to see what certain people are doing in their lives now. True colors show in weird ways, social media being one of them, even their silence was so so loud.
So maybe I pushed myself away. No..no…. the word is grew.
I grew.
Also, I couldn’t help but laugh when I saw this on NBC4 a few days ago! I’m tellin’ ya…I don’t need one media source to tell me that another media source is unhealthy but….just saying…
Also I watched Marie Kondo’s “Tidying Up”. My house is still a fucking wreck but my mind is as clearer than ever. Thanks Marie!
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Footage from NBC4.
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I felt that! I’m seriously a happier, more productive version of me🙌🏼🙌🏼🙌🏼🙌🏼 It’s been a good exchange here too.
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It truly has made a difference for me. Less Facebook, less drama. Thanks for reading Stacy!
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I got rid of it too a few months back. Whew! Good job. Welcome back to reality.
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That’s exactly what I told myself! Welcome back to reality! Plus, I personally find blogging to be much more meaningful. Thanks for reading Jim!
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Totally agree!
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Right! Thank you for reading Nika, and have an awesome day!
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You, too, my friend! xxx
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🦋 I joined FB in 2013 when we lived in another state from the grandchildren and my daughter convinced me to open a FB page so I can keep up with photos etc. sigh. Test failed so I used the account to also connect with old writer friends. sigh. Test failed. Felt guilty if I shut it down….for a few years. I finally did it. I began 2019 without it. Feel better? You betcha. Bored now? No way! I have more time to write for my website, talk more on the phone with kids and grandkids, meet friends for coffee.
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You couldn’t have said it better!! I feel so much more relaxed without it! Especially having this blog community. My work seems to be more appreciated here. I’m thankful for people like you, who can relate. For some people FB is a toxic environment and I honestly feel like it can hinder our creative process. Thank you for sharing your experience!❤️🌹
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Yes, I totally agree. I also feel more appreciated here.
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❤❤😉
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Hi Stephanie Roath and Riverside Peace,
I have read all of your comments and can’t agree with you more! For your information, I have stayed away from Facebook for more than three years. You can find my critique and discussion on Facebook in the section called “Stop Facebooking and Smell the Roses” within my post entitled “🦅 SoundEagle in Best Moment Award from Moment Matters 🔖🏆” published at https://soundeagle.wordpress.com/2013/03/18/soundeagle-in-best-moment-award-from-moment-matters/#Jesse_Hawley
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Thank you! I’ll definitely check it out! I’m grateful to know that I’m not alone in feeling that Facebook can be very toxic and extremely time consuming. I’ll be reading your post very shortly and thank you for commenting. I’m so grateful for this blog community.❤️
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This is very interesting, I would like to hear more about this, like after a few months or so, really would like to do the same, but still need it I guess 😄
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Thank you for reading! And I totally understand, I had FB for over ten years and not everything about it is bad! I’ve been keeping track of my time on social media, and if actually deleting would truly be healthier for my mental state. I can honestly say that it has. I also know that for me FB was a pretty toxic place so it really is better that I do away with it. But I know it’s not that way for everyone so do what makes YOU happy!! Again thank you so much for reading! Have a wonderful day❤️❤️
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Thanks for answering, well maybe I’ll start halfway and keep it as a contact book 👍
Have a nice weekend
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There ya go!🧡😀 Good luck! Let me know how you feel if you decide to delete! 😃And a good weekend to you also!! Again thank you for reading!
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I shared this one on fb, lol, with a comment telling everyone that when I’m finally mia, following a thoughtful “goodbye, peace & love”, they’ll know why. :-p
I’ve been so bored with it that I don’t login more than once a week for 5 minutes. Not to mention the other reasons (censorship, politics, fakeness, etc.,etc…. I think I’m still hanging on only bc of my kids, & about 5 truly good people, energy.
So many of your posts feels like you said…a kindred spirit. You’re very good with words/expression.
Your vibe attracts your tribe?
😀
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Dawn! ❤️❤️Your words have made my day. Connecting with individuals like yourself is exactly why I started blogging, actually, it is why I NEEDED this blog. I know I’ve said it 1000 times now but damn Facebook can be a toxic place for people such as ourselves. I’m done sharing my thoughts and allowing my vulnerability to show to people who are just waiting to attack. only there to attack really… Not doing it anymore. I’m so grateful that you can relate to this post and Thank you so so so much for sharing this. From the bottom of my heart, I appreciate your words ❤️❤️❤️
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Well done! 🙂
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Thank you!❤️ I needed the mental break!❤️ Thank you for stopping by!
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Good for you for doing what feels right for you! I’m debating nixing Instagram.
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Thank you Christy! I enjoy not having it. And I’ve thought about taking an Instagram hiatus as well. I’d like to focus strictly on writing, that would be my best move right now, honestly.lol Thanks for stopping by!
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Good on you!
I get so much flack from hubby’s fam about us NOT being on Fauxbook (what I call it).
I’ve never spent any time on it, but I do have one ‘open’ for my biz. (Don’t tell the fam!! 😉) Again, why I don’t want them to read my blog, either!
I’m a private opt-outta-everything kinda girl and don’t like spreading all my info around. I am mesmerized by the info folks put out there. Scary!
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Yes! Fauxbook! I love it! Haha I’m a very private person as well. I have had an ongoing mental battle with myself about sharing my blog..I haven’t yet because I love that it’s my safe space. And I agree, it’s crazy the personal things people post on social media!
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I’m almost at a year since I physically left as well. Plan on doing a one review here soon…not as much time to blog with two kids and a busy semester!
https://cloakunfurled.com/2018/03/26/why-i-am-leaving-facebook/
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I’m glad it’s going good for you! I’ve thoroughly enjoyed my time away. I honestly don’t know if I’ll ever have it again. I’ve found I appreciate blogging much more! But like you said, with two little one and a busy schedule, it can be challenging to find time.. Thank you for reading and commenting!!♥️♥️♥️
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Yeah, at first I thought I might just take a year break, but honestly, it just doesn’t fit my life anymore and the more I learn about the business ethics of social media companies the more I worry that I am just part of support a bad ethical structure. Pretty sure my protest doesn’t make that much of a difference, but you have to start somewhere. lol
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I absolutely agree, I was investing to much time and information on FB. And yes, it really is important because you do have to start somewhere! I always tell myself that!
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Also i can’t wait to read your link!!
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